The Collar of Consideration

The Collar of Consideration

The Collar of Consideration

as you all know I am kinda old school .old fashion bdsm .mindaswell the last who is NOT INTO 'THE BURGERKING WAY of bdsm .I do believe into protocol.I act in the way of protocol and REQUIRE the same with the ppl around Me.

if your not in to protocol at least be not rude.

ettequite and good behavior is just as important .

~{Mommah Passion aka MrsJade

part of the House of Dark Passion with Lord Clark}june 8 2007

Collaring is the term commonly used by those in the D/s community to describe the commencement of a relationship between a Dominant and a submissive. It carries the same type of weight that a marriage ring does in it's final stage and denotes the same depth of commitment. In recent times (since the advent of the internet) we have seen a bastardizing of this ritual into something casual and transient. This attack on long standing traditions should be actively fought by educating those entering the lifestyle.

First I want to state clearly that in my opinion collaring is done ONLY in real life, between live people, ceremonially, joyously and celebrated. One does not get married online or on the phone and one does not collar online or on the phone.

The first collar offered is called the 'Collar of Consideration'. This identification comes from the Old Guard Leather community, the same source of the Safe, Sane and Consensual code. This Collar is traditionally given at the very beginning of a potential relationship. There are many variations on how a collar may be represented in actuality. It can be by a bracelet, waist chain, anklet or other choice. This is sometimes determined by the situation of the submissive such as job requirements etc. Sometimes it is dictated by the Dominant's personal taste. The traditional or customary representation of the 'Collar of Consideration' is a leather collar in some shade of blue. The actual shade of color is not as important as the color itself.

The Dominant by offering this collar to the submissive is expressing an interest in pursuing a potential furthering of a relationship with that submissive beyond the range of a casual acquaintance or even the relationship between a Top and bottom. This collar is offered seriously and with intent. The submissive in accepting this collar from the Dominant is equally serious in their understanding that their relationship has moved into a different stage. The existence of the Collar of Consideration indicates to other Dominant's and submissives that the Dominant and submissive are forming a potentially serious relationship. It's existence acts to openly present to other Dominant's that this submissive is 'off-limits' for the duration of the 'consideration' period and that honorable Dominant's should not pursue this submissive in any manner.
It is understood that new relationships are fragile and vulnerable to both parties involved. Respect for new relationships is shown by adhering to the presence of collars and their underlying meanings. The 'Collar of Consideration' does not indicate a lifelong commitment between the Dominant and submissive but might be better considered to be similar to a pre-engagement ring.
Should either Dominant or submissive decide after a period of time that the relationship or connection is not to their desire then either may politely withdraw from the offer or the acceptance with "NO FAULT" to either side. If a submissive is uncollared then it is considered important for that submissive to physically remove the collar and place it within the hands of the Dominant personally. If extensive attempts have been made to do so unsuccessfully then and ONLY then should the submissive retain the collar. In other words the collar is the property OF the Dominant. It should be purchased, acquired or made BY the Dominant, for the Dominant. Upon the severance of the relationship it should be rightfully returned to it's owner. Objects given as gifts TO the submissive should be CLEARLY defined as becoming the submissives property and not expected to be returned should the relationship end. To keep the collar is considered to be extremely disrespectful.
For any Dominant to 'actively' approach a collared submissive is considered an extreme breach of protocol and it should be noted that such action can have serious negative impact on that Dominant's real life reputation. The traditions of our community should be given the same honor, dignity and respect of any other. Those that actively diminish or devalue what is precious to us should be aware that such diminishment identifies you as being EXTERNAL to our community or a parasite upon it. If you are one of those then perhaps you should return to your sorry world where honor is non-existent, honesty impossible to find and trust just a word in the dictionary

. http://www.albanypowerexchange.com/BDSMinfo/the_collar.htm

Reminder for all who going to meet someone ofline ...Safemeet

Reminder for all who going to meet someone ofline ...

I am re posting this for 1 of My sub friends/sis .
she going to have a meet ..hopefully a safe meet.
I wishe her the best time possible
well anyone else need this reminder 2 ..
stay safe no matter what!!!!!

PLEASE read on ...I need to stress this because to many people
regardless vanilla or lifestyle meet without safety .

safety for there
very own life .think about it twice and make your safety check up on
everyone you wanna meet.

SAFETY
Emotional Safety
No,
pain is not all physical. Sometimes, it's in your head and your heart
as well, and sometimes, those scars are the hardest to heal. Here are
some tips to lessen your chances of getting them in the first place.

1)Be honest. With yourself. With prospective partners. Never be ashamed to
admit you don't know something, or to ask questions. If you're looking
for 24/7, don't tell someone you only want to play. If you're looking
for love and romance, be up-front about it. If you are dishonest about
what you want, it's not only you who could get hurt in the long run.


2)Never reveal too much about your personal life to anyone on-line. There are
too many people who'll use your heartaches and problems for hot IM
gossip.

3)If something doesn't feel right, it probably isn't. Your instincts, once
again, are your greatest gift and resource. Use them, and listen to
them.

4)Heed warnings. If you're told by more than one person that a
prospective partner could be trouble, LISTEN.
Take into account that it's someone else's opinion of someone you're
getting to know, but always listen, and openly ask your partner about
what you hear. Ultimately, it's up to you to decide if you believe
everything you hear, but always hear what someone is trying to tell
you, and always, check it out. 5)If
a prospective partner asks you not to ask anyone else on-line about
them, ask yourself why. Then ask them why. And if you can't come up
with any satisfactory answers, either walk away, or proceed with
EXTREME
caution.


6)If a prospective partner is hesitant with personal
information after you've already given yours, then take it as a
warning. FIND OUT WHY.

7)Don't get dragged into on-line gossip. It may be fun for awhile, but
eventually it will only come back to haunt you. There are people
on-line who have nothing better to do. Don't become one of them.
8)Think for yourself. Trust yourself. Be honest with yourself. And
above all, TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF
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More on Safe Calls
Note:
These suggestions may seem to be bordering on paranoia, but it doesn't
cost anything to be cautious. Don't take chances when your mental,
physical and emotional health could be at risk. Do
what's right for you, but consider these or similar suggestions very
seriously before agreeing to meet someone for BDSM activity for the
first time.{there shouldnt be any BDSM activity on first Meet} Any
Dom/me or sub who is reputable and trustworthy should have no problems
with these or similar procedures, and if they do, perhaps that should
be a warning signal that they are not what they appear to be. The
following information should be given to the person(s) receiving your
safe calls: Your full name Your home address and phone number Make,
model, color, and license plate number of your car if you are driving
yourself, or Detailed information (flight numbers and times, rental car
information, etc.) if you are using other transportationALL the
information you have on person you are meeting, including:
Their full
name and screenname(s) or
logon ID(s)
Their address and phone number(s)
Their age, description, any and all information you have on the person
you are meeting.Pass on to your safe call person(s): Where you are
meeting The name of place you are meeting The
address of the meeting place, including room number (if applicable)
{THERE SHOULDNT BE A MEET IN A HOTEL ROOM}

and phone number (if you do
not have it ahead of time, give it during first phone call) When you
are meeting - time and date {ALWAYS A PLACE IN PUPLIC} The phone number
for the local police in the town you are meeting
Be sure to have agreed and understood codewords for your safe call, one
indicating that everything is ok, and one indicating that you need
help. The first phone call should be made within 15 minutes of the
established meeting time. The second phone call should be made within
30 minutes {OR EARLIER}after the first. The
third phone call should be made within 2 hours after that or before
leaving the place of the meeting, whichever comes first. The fourth
phone call should be made within 30 minutes of leaving the meeting. If
the meeting lasts longer than 3 hours, phone calls should be made no
less than every 2 hours apart until you part company... then proceed
with the departing call and the last call SAFE CALLS From:
"acquiescent" safety thank you
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♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥♥ ♥ ♥ Safecalls?What are they? ?Who Needs them?
?How can they help? Many times people are so eager to meet and/or have
a session they forget about Safety. A Safe Call is a call that is used
when you are meeting your partner real time. It is a way of letting
someone know who you are going to be with, where you are going to go
and gives a way for that person to contact you to make sure that what
you thought was going to happen, does. Set up for either you or your
Safe Call to call you either at a specified time. If it is at a
specified time, then it is your responsbiity to call your Safe Call
within a half hour either way of the designated time agreed to. If your
Safe Call is the one making the call, to be sure that you are ok. If in
either case you cannot be reached or spoken to, it is the
responsibility of the Safe Call to contact the authorities, whether the
Hotel Manager or the police from the city you are in. Another method of
using a safe-call is to decide upon two code phrases, which would sound
normal to a person over-hearing the conversation, but that would
signify either 'all ok' or 'trouble'. Such phrases can range from 'my
head hurts' to 'I will be missing the last bus so don't worry if I take
the train'. Obviously, adjust the phrases to your environment. Who can
you have as a Safe Call?? Anyone you trust with the information you get
from your partner. The information is not for personal use but to use
in a case of true emergency. Whether it is your mom, dad, sister, close
friend or even someone you know online that you feel comfortable with.
DO NOT go unless SOMEONE knows you are meeting your partner..!!!! The
FIRST MEETING should ALWAYS be in a public place. By having a Safe Call
you are at least taking care not only of yourself but of those you are
leaving behind, if something goes awry with the meeting. You should NOT
plan on playing/scening at this first meeting. Use this time to get to
know each other socially and get to know the personal you. It is also a
time to make sure that the chemistry is right between you both. If it
is not - it's ok. Not everyone you meet for the first time is going to
be that instant attraction. But be honest about it. What you both said
online/telephone may in fact NOT be what the reality is when you meet.
It is far better to know in the beginning than to keep on and hurt for
a lifetime later. It's up to you to make sure that someone knows what
is going on so that you can get help if you need it. Take care of you
for yourself and your loved one's
.~Mommah Passion aka Jade

Tags: safety, personel, myopinion, lifestyle.health, foryou'll |

Saturday September 22, 2007 - 11:55pm

''MommahJade''

bdsm on a buget pt 2: Play Time time for Lord Clark

bdsm on a buget pt 2: Play Time time for Lord Clark

Hello people how are you doing in 360 land. Thought I come by and show you how Me and Mommah do a Scene here in our small place. We don't have the room for lots of dungeon equipment We have a room that we use for guests that stay with us every other blue Moon.

The futon make a good bondage bed to cuff people {sub} to because it have metal bars to lock the person down to.

Tags: bdsm.budget, royallyspeaking, straightup, fun

Monday May 21, 2007 - 11:28pm

'LC'

BDSM ON A BUDGET

BDSM ON A BUDGET

GREETINGS TO ALL.
I THOUGHT I WOULD TALK BOUT SOME THING THAT DOM/DOMES/SUBS/SLAVES WOULD UNDERSTAND.

BDSM ON A BUDGET.

MOST OF US CANT NOT AFFORD TO BY THOSE FANSTY TOYS AND DUNGON EQUIPMENTS. SO WE HAVE TO MAKE

OUR OWN TOYS.

FOR EXAMPLE I MADE MY OWN SPREADER BAR FROM THINGS THAT I GOT FROM WALLMART. FROM THE CRAFT SECTION I BOUGHT A WOODEN ROD AND EYE BOLTS FROM HARD WHERE (SMALL ONES) AND SAFETY HARNEST CLIPS (MUST BE MADE OF METAL NOT PLASTIC). ALSO I MADE FUR PADDLES BY BUYING A PING PONG PADDLE AND RABBIT FUR (REAL). MY WIFE, MOMMAH PASSION, MAKE HER OWN ROPE FLOGGERS.

THERE ARE OTHER THINGS YOU CAN DO TO SAVE MONEY TO LIVE THIS LIFESTYLE. LIKE FOR NIPPLE CLAMPS YOU CAN USE A SNAKE BITE KIT OR CLOTHES PINS (PLS DONT LEAVE THEM ON TO LONG THEY WOULD LEAVE MARK OR BLISTERS). FOR PADDLES LIKE I SAID BEFORE A PIN PONG PADDLES. FOR BONDAGE YOU CAN USE ROPE (CLOTHES LINES) OR BELTS FOR STRAPS ( MAKE SURE THAT YOU DONT HAVE THEM TO TIGHT OR YOU WOULD COULD CUT OFF BLOOD CIRCULATION).

EVEN THE SWIFTER WAND IS A GOOD FOR A SPANKING TOY. ALSO IF YOU LOOKING FOR A COLLAR FOR YOUR SUB (EVEN THOUGH SOME MAY SAY THAT IS UNAPPROPIATE) FOR PLAY A DOG COLLORS ARE GOOD FOR A COLLAR AND CUFFS (PET SMART OR ANY OTHER PET STORE HAVE NICE FANCY ONES).

ALSO YOU CAN GET YOU CROPS AND SINGLE TAILS AND MOUTH BITS IN A TACK SHOP( HORSE EQUIPMENT).

WELL THAT IT FOR NOW BUT I HOPE THAT THIS WILL HELP YOU SAVE FEW DOLLARS. OH BEFORE I LEAVE DONT FOR GET TO CHECK OUT HOME DEPOT FOR CHAINS AND LOCKS OTHER GOOD TOYS.

I HOPE YOU HAVE FUN AND PLAY SAFE

LORD CLARK

SATURDAY, MARCH 31 2007

ANY ONE THAT COPY THIS IS BETTER PUT MY NAME WITH THIS TO SHOW THAT YOU ARE TRUE TO THE LIFE.

Tags: bdsm.budget, royallyspeaking, fun

Saturday March 31, 2007 - 10:45am

'LC'

Gorean Master: Another side of Me

Gorean Master: Another side of Me

For those who really Know Me Knows that I am into Gor. Well I am Getting back into Learning it again and adding it to My training of subs/slaves. Jade is learning it to help Me train other girls that want that style of training. We are learning the commands that The Free (Master/Mistress) should know to teach a slave (kajira). As the Owner of The House I shoudl post some of it in My blog what the Commands that Free give to theirs slaves. I would like to hear what you think bout these commands.

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Picture from http://www.pantheus.com/T-O/artgal.shtml

Master Commands from http://www.counterurth.com/gor/command.htm

(for examples of these positions, come here)

	bara : at this command, a slavegirl will lie on her stomach, with her wrists crossed behind her back, ready for binding, and with her ankles crossed, ready for binding
	belly: This position is used mainly because it pleases the Master. she falls to the floor face down, her forehead resting flat on the surface her arms at her sides with her legs spread widely, and crawls to her Master on her belly.
	bracelets: this position is used to put on slave bracelets for chaining the slave. she places her hands behind her back, her shoulders pushed back and her breasts thrust outward, her hands clasped tightly behind her back, ready for bracelets.
	crawl: similar to the belly command, she gets on all fours, palms to elbows are flat on the floor, as ass in the air with her forehead close to but not touching the ground and crawls to Masters feet.
	Gorean bow: she kneels in nadu and bends her body backwards, her head to the floor she places her hands by her head and pulls up into a back bend.

	hair position: she stands her feet flat on the floor, and bows gracefully at the waist that her hair might fall forward for display or to be shorn, seized, or for any purpose that the Master desires.
	har-ta! : faster!
	heel command: she goes to the Master and kneels behind His left foot, awaiting His movement whereupon she stays to His left and slightly behind Him as He moves.
	high bracelets: she stands with feet shoulder width apart, holding her head high with eyes lowered submissively, her arms out before her with her wrists pressed together, ready for binding.
	kara : turning
	karta position of obedience: she kneels on the floor, her thighs spread wide to allow her to lay her chest upon the floor, she leans forward placing her breasts and forehead on the floor, reaching out with her arms fully extended, palms down, ankles may be crossed of uncrossed. show utmost respect. requests may be made from this position.
	ko-laring position: also called the "position of female submission" she kneels at the Masters feet and leans her body back, sitting on her heels, with her arms extended upward, crossed at the wrists, and her head beneath them lowered in supplication.
	leading position: posture of a slave girl, bending forward at the waist, with her head at a master's hip, so that he may grab her hair and guide her where he wishes her to go
	lesha: at this command, the slavegirl stands with her hands behind her back, ready for binding, and with her head back and chin to the left, ready to have a leash snapped onto her collar
	nadu : at this command, a slavegirl will kneel back on her heels, with her knees spread wide, back straight, hands on thighs with palms up, head up, eyes lowered; i.e.: to assume the position of a Pleasure Slave
	obedience position: she goes to the floor laying upon her stomach face down before the Master. she turns her head and places her cheek against His feet, kissing them lightly In a gesture of love and submission
	prostrate: this is used when waiting to enter a room, she kneels and touches her forehead to the floor stretching her arms out before her with palms down and fingers splayed
	run command: she runs towards her objective taking short rapid steps her legs almost straight her feet hardly leaving the floor. as she moves her back is straight, head turned to the left, arms at her sides palms facing outward at a 45degree angle. Upon reaching her goal she drops gracefully to her knees and assumes nadu
	She-Sleen position: also known as "assuming the modality of the she-quadruped" she falls to her hands and knees, her head down on the floor, her hindquarters thrust high for viewing and/or her Masters pleasure. serving in the modality of the she-quadruped is an instruction whereby the slave performs her regular duties upon hands and knees, without the benefit of the use of her hands. In this mode she may not rise to her feet and may only use her mouth to grasp and move objects.
	slave lips : the pursing of a slave's lips as for kissing
	Slavers kiss position: she falls to the floor on all fours and lowers her head to the ground with her ass thrust upward and her thighs widely parted exposing her hind quarters fully in preparation for the caress of the leather against her body. Common Gorean usage of this position, she falls to the floor upon all fours and keeps her head straight, her eyes looking forward, with her ass thrust upward and her thighs widely spread in preparation of the sexual use of the Master
	submission: she kneels bending at the waist, places her cheek to the floor, takes the Masters right foot and places it upon her neck, placing her arms behind her back crossing them at the wrist.
	suga: this is very similar to karta, but in this her wrists are crossed, she kneels knees wide and lays her head to the floor forehead down and arms stretched over her head. lying quietly
	sula : at this command, a slavegirl will lie on her back, her hands at her sides, palms up, and with her legs spread wide...she awaits Masters inspection.
	sula-ki: this position is almost identical to the sula position, except once she has assumed sula, she slowly lifts her hips. encouraging her sexual use by Him.
	table: this command is used when ever the Master needs a resting place for his drink or just to rest his feet. she goes on all fours, locking her elbows, making her back straight and level, holding her head level also.
	walk command: when this command is given she turns in a graceful pirouette, her hair swinging. she she walks gliding across the room her feet seeming to not leave the floor, walking sensually, when she reaches her objective, she halts and stands, her body erect, shoulders back chest thrust forward, belly in. Turning her hip out her hands at her sides, and points one foot, head high and eyes lowered as always.
	whipping position: she first assumes nadu, though with her arms crossed in front of her, she then leans forward and places her head to the floor first sweeping her hair forward over her shoulder in order her back is utter exposed for the whip
	veck : stand

Wednesday September 6, 2006 - 03:10pm

''LC'

House of Dark Passion

more about the Master of this House :
Lord of Dark Passion

BEFORE I AM A MASTER OR DOM IAM A MAN OF FLESH AND BLOOD. BEFORE I AM A MASTER IAM A LOVING HUSBAND TO A GOOD WOMAN AND A SON TO ANOTHER. BEFORE IAM A MASTER I AM A FRIEND TO ALL IN AND OUT OF THE LIFE. BEFORE I AM A MASTER I AM ABOVE ALL A CHILD OF GOD ALMIGHTY THE TRUE MASTER OF US ALL. TO ALL THESES ARE MY WORDS, MY HEART, AND MY SOUL I PRAY TO GOD, FATHER ABOVE TO GUIDE ME OUT OF DARKNESS INTO THE LIGHT, BACK TO THE TRUE PATH THAT YOU OH LORD SET BEFORE ME MY ALMIGHTY FATHER IN HEAVEN AND ON EARTH. AMEN

LORD"JUAN"CLARK31

Friday September 15, 2006 - 10:26pm

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I am MrsJade
My husband and I created the bdsm House of Dark Passion ca.5 years ago.
we will re-post our older post from our bdsm info page